Don’t Let Comparison Steal Your Joy

We live in an amazing, high tech, ultra connected world. We basically have the world’s knowledge in a device in the palm of our hand. Just stop and consider for a few seconds: you, right now, are living in the most scientifically and technologically advanced time the human species has ever known…

If we look back through history civilisations have come and gone. Vast tracts of the planet have lost their knowledge and learning and regressed.

Right now we are so so privileged. Self driving cars, intelligent devices, breakthroughs in medical science, in quantum theory. Make no mistake, this technology and what it delivers is amazing. Even 15 years ago what we have now would have seemed inconceivable (I know – I was working in mobile content back in 2000 – no one really understood or believed how these devices would advance and transform our lives).

Yet this technology also has a dark side. The paradox is that although we are now the most connected we have ever been in our entire planet’s history, we have soaring levels of loneliness, of depression, of dissatisfaction.

That’s because we can see into each other’s lives like never before. Or rather, we think we’re seeing other’s lives… Twenty years ago you pretty much knew your friends and family well, and what you knew about them, you knew from hanging out with them or them telling you. Today you can monitor your friends’ activities thousands of miles away via your social feed. Not only that, you can see right into complete stranger’s lives as if you know them. And don’t their lives look wonderful?

Social media breeds a false intimacy on multiple levels. Two of which are that you don’t actually know that person at all. The other is that you only see what they want you to see.

You have a perception that their life is soooo much better than yours. Yet what they post may be an illusion too. That travel blogger always on a beach bragging about “laptop lifestyle” is actually lonely and broke. The fitness blogger that always has the perfect body and posts indulgent meals. But they’re not eating those meals. Those pics were taken months ago on a cut. They’re hungry and tired…and loathe their body.

I could go on. The intimacy that social media brings bypasses our filters. We want to believe what we see. Our lives don’t stack up, we slip into negative thought patterns, or worse, negative self-beliefs.

Stop it! Now. It will destroy you.

I bet you have so so much going for you right now.

Comparison is the thief of joy.

Right now just jot down 10 things you’re grateful for in your life – anything that gives you joy or you’d be miserable without.

Take 5 minutes each morning to count your blessings. You have many. This will help to build a positive mindset, and when we give out positivity we begin to get it back 🙂

Do your gratitude list. Apply your filter. Embrace the world with a positive mindset for what you have and what you can achieve.

SHUT OUT THE NOISE. It’s not real. And it has zero bearing on who you are and who you can become.

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